Comments on: Who is the Devil?

By: Chris

Chris — Sun, 29 Jun 2008 17:33:10 +0000

Wow. Irish. That film was really, really disturbing. I went a little further and looked up that family on Wikipedia. OMG. The level of enmeshment between mother and son closely mirrors the relationship I have with my mother. Yikes!

The only other movie I’ve seen recently that a character reminded me so much of mom was “There Will be Blood”. If you take my mom and turn her into a man and put her in the early days of the oil industry -that’s what you get. “I drink your milkshake!” LMAO

Thank you Marc and Steve. I’m at the place of pity for her, Steve. I’m just not completely free of anger, yet. Happy Birthday, handsome.

By: Irish Friend of Bill

Irish Friend of Bill — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 19:57:22 +0000

I saw this article about a film about a !! VERY ! crazy mom and I thought it looked good. thought you might find it interesting. ?

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1030028/Fatal-Seduction-How-society-millionairess-seduced-son-cure-gay–paid-life.html

Fatal Seduction: How a society millionairess seduced her own son to ‘cure’ him of being gay… and paid with her life

http://www.watch-movies.net/movies/savage_grace/
(Watch on firefox)

Hvaent seen it but judging by the article i read it looks good..
personally I love stuff about messed up families, but thats just me.. (!)
..have a nice weekend!

By: Steve Rebooted

Steve Rebooted — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 03:13:50 +0000

It’s difficult when there is an ill and toxic family member, especially a parent. But, I’m glad you have an ally in your sister. For in many families, it’s often only one child who sees ‘the big picture.’ I’m glad you got to spend some time with your Sis. My Father fit the description of your Mother. It took me 30 years to figure that out. But when I did, the only way I was able to deal with him, was to completely pity him. For he was truly worthy of it.

By: Marc

Marc — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 21:14:47 +0000

I watched my father die of alcoholism I clearly inherited–one genetic “gift” arrested through the gift of recovery. Now I’m watching Alzheimer’s subvert my Mom…did I dodge that bullet? Time will tell.
I’m glad you’re taking care of your sanity before you contemplate dealing with your mother’s lack thereof.

By: Chris

Chris — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 15:31:32 +0000

Thanks guys. I need to call my sister and tell her to read these comments.

By: Raj

Raj — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 14:06:07 +0000

It may well be that your mother has caused harm to you and your other sibblings, but she’s your mother at the end of the day, I hope you and your sister realize deep within that it wasn’t her fault really, she was controlled by her own disorder, just as you forgive yoiursself for being controlled by the disease of addiction

By: Java

Java — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 13:50:17 +0000

Wow, what a mess. How sad to not have an effective mother. How sad to not BE an effective mother. I struggle with that daily. I think BECAUSE I struggle, that probably makes me better at the job. If I didn’t try, I wouldn’t care. Or if I didn’t care, I wouldn’t try.

Glad you realize this about you and your mother. I’m sure, though it is difficult, it will help.

Moral insanity… that’s a very descriptive term.

By: warrior scout

warrior scout — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 13:39:08 +0000

very thoughtful post- thank you. i am learning (trial by fire) that i am not as well-equipped to handle life on life’s terms as i’d like. but that’s just like so much else in my life. i am where i am and that must be where i need to be. i have to have faith that things are working out. i just don’t understand it yet. help is on the way.