Comments on: So Spank Me

By: dirty dishes

dirty dishes — Mon, 05 May 2008 02:34:05 +0000

Hey Tex, I think the chairperson should have shut her up in a kind loving way. One time at a meeting the chair person asked for a topic and one guy wanted to talk about Al Gore and global warming! The chair person set him straight. It is also the responsibility of the chair to address cross talk etc. We also have to put principles before personalities, but in this case it sounds like the principles were being undermined. Oh, yeah and the people who always say the same thing…two experiences on that one.I asked my sponsor about it one day and said I could not bear to listen to these two people in particular who obviously did not work a program and always said the same thing at every meeting and she said, well, somehow God has kept them sober despite what you think of them. Ouch! And the second experience was that I finally actually “heard” what the person said and it helped me that day. hey sorry I never did the mem, I did one very similar to it recently though, should be in my archive. you sound great, school job and sobriety is a heavy load! God bless.

By: Chris

Chris — Sun, 04 May 2008 20:48:23 +0000

Overall I find it best not to judge period, myself or others. Of course, for me, that’s soooo easy to say and soooo hard to do.

LOL Actually, because of the architecture of the human brain I don’t believe that it is physiologically possible to never judge. But I think you’re right, it isn’t nesicessarily the judging, but what we do with it; how we use it as an opportunity to examine ourselves.

By: Wayward Son

Wayward Son — Sun, 04 May 2008 18:20:52 +0000

… completely anonymous, that is. LOL

By: Wayward Son

Wayward Son — Sun, 04 May 2008 18:20:05 +0000

Sorry, that was me up there, Wayward Son. I forgot to enter my info and came off as being anonymous when I did not intend to.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 04 May 2008 18:18:27 +0000

Hopefully she was not promoting controlled drinking! I have always interpreted the AA message as being that if we were in control of our recovery we would be more able to influence our life. That no one can completely control any situation is, for me, understood whether or not one has an issue with addiction. Hence the value in everyone giving their life over to a power greater than themselves—it’s not just for alcoholics, I think.

And AA is very clear about promoting outside business in the rooms—it’s tradition not to. But then so is cross-talking and side conversations if not expressly stated.

Overall I find it best not to judge period, myself or others. Of course, for me, that’s soooo easy to say and soooo hard to do. It is a matter of practice over and over.

In the spirit of not judging, lest I come across that way, my thoughts here are really about what I took away from your post for myself. In that way you have been quite influential.

By: pat

pat — Sun, 04 May 2008 10:59:06 +0000

I am thinking that no matter what she thought, she should not have used a meeting to promote her business. It screams tacky to me.

By: Chris

Chris — Sun, 04 May 2008 06:34:56 +0000

You’re bad! Come sit next to me. LOL

By: Steve Rebooted

Steve Rebooted — Sun, 04 May 2008 06:27:37 +0000